Can’t remember exactly, once I read somewhere that there are three important connections in your life that you need to keep finding & nurturing: connect with yourself, connect with others, connect to nature. These are considered as the three C’s to joy, spirit, and relaxation helping you recover from an illness both mentally and physically. Sadly, not every single chapter in your life we know how to develop these connections.
The older I am, the deeper I understand that not everyone will like me or not everyone I lose is a loss. However, as we grow up time after time, suddenly I realize that being a friend with someone, having a conversation, knowing each other and then becoming closer are harder than before. Not only because we are busier or having tons of things need to be done so that all we can do is caring about several people with limited time but you know, this life make us wary of each other. Will he/she hurt me? Will you be nice to me then treat me like a bad ass? Those reasons lead us to weak connections.
I’m fully aware that having more meaningful conversations (well, life is short and we don’t have time to waste) and decrease personal barriers are very important. But how? Recently, I have tried some simple methods inspired by John Hall – the CEO of Influence & Co., to increase my connections. Let’s create a bucket list and see how it works:
1. Don’t get too excited about your next thought.
2. Ask good questions that show you’re engaged.
3. Don’t waste people’s time.
4. Let people sell themselves.
5. Ask how you can add value.
6. Do what you can to help.
7. Reach out in meaningful ways.
8. Decrease personal barriers.
9. Listen and remember key points.
10. Hold back on sharing how awesome you are.
11. Recognize other people.